tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7319552072205570281.post8933855649706327575..comments2023-06-14T05:55:47.418-04:00Comments on Maintaining the Zen: Letting Them GoSoberMomWriteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7319552072205570281.post-56002522559509132802013-06-03T20:33:08.245-04:002013-06-03T20:33:08.245-04:00Oh stop, you're breaking my heart. .. I can...Oh stop, you're breaking my heart. .. I can't even begin to image what this stage is going to be like.. given that my kids are all still under 10.. but oh goodness I can imagine the pain at the letting go.. you articulate it so well.. but it also sounds like you're living the pain well and out loud and openly and honestly .. sobriety will do that to ya! Your boys sound so fabulous.. they are lucky to have you as their mum. Also see that you're thinking of further study.. good plan. This is an adjustment for sure.. best of luck... you will adjust and things will smooth out again... sending love xxxMrs Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7319552072205570281.post-26001295168161237102013-06-03T10:05:13.125-04:002013-06-03T10:05:13.125-04:00It is hard I remember my son going to university. ...It is hard I remember my son going to university. I mean I was worried and he did struggle, new room, new town 300 miles from home, new friends, new studies, different style etc. No Mum to do the washing and cooking, no Dad to do the washing up and run him about everywhere!<br /><br />But he was fine in a matter of weeks. I however was depressed by it I have to admit to it. And each Sept after 3 months at home I have a bit of the same, but it gets better - now he is moving the Midlands and that'll be it since he starts a PhD - as close to a proper job as he'll ever get probably!!! Furtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7319552072205570281.post-74401605733409975472013-06-02T10:39:32.558-04:002013-06-02T10:39:32.558-04:00Are your twins your youngest kids? It sounds like ...Are your twins your youngest kids? It sounds like you see very clearly what the issues are. It also sounds like you are afraid my friend. :o) Afraid of the change of having high school graduates, especially if they are your last ones.....its the ending of a huge time in your life. Parenting kids who are in school. College is different....that is truly *their* thing. They don't need us to sign permission slips, or talk to teachers, etc. They just need us to pay for it LOL. Maybe afraid you are losing your boy to the heart of another, but you are SO right when you say that this is exactly the way it should be. And it does show what a great job you have done! You have a boy who is steady and stable, who knows himself pretty well and is able to respectfully enter into a loving relationship with another woman, because YOU taught him how to do that! <br />Be gentle with yourself, process away, and be brave mama. Change is so freaking hard! I loved your honesty in this post. Any mother worth her salt can relate to this post. <3Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.com